What is really the deal with you being sad, these days?
When was the last time you beamed in glee, from ear to ear?
I am not feeling like it, you know.. These days have been… just bad… Nothing actually happened yet I feel jaded.
Is this what you gotta say about the murk you are descending in, nowadays? Well, let’s spark the fire and build the camp for this soothing read of a journey.
The question - Why sad?
What does Science have to offer about this?
It talks about the deficit amount of certain neurotransmitters including serotonin, dopamine and norepinephrine in the nervous system and hence chiselling your happy aura to jade.
Now, dusting science aside for a moment, let's talk about what is going wrong? What is it that has been pinching you so much? What has buried your enthusiastic charisma ? You have been sad for too long, could it be depression? No, It is not. It is just you trying to unravel what seems like the most tangled thread called “Self”. You have been pushing yourself for too long, plotting actions and brewing expectations, and this whole show of you going on a spree to get to ‘more of things’ have taken a toll on your immaculate subliminal self.
When was the last time you ditched the shackle of obligations and had a heart-to-heart with yourself? Cannot remember it, can you? This is us, this is humans and yes, this is life. Feeling drenched in the murk of jade is totally normal and lucrative, see you are thriving underneath this coat of suffering.
Why is it that I feel lost?
Feeling lost can be perceived in two varied ways,
I feel lost and this is good. Otherwise, how would I have ever gotten to know that I have parted with the chain I have been in, I have liberated myself, I am alone in this wonderland and I need to establish my sacred heart.
OR
You can go about ranting,
I am the most hideous person on this earth and I can offer nothing but jinx to people. I try to do things right, only to get them horribly wrong. I see myself failing, I see myself unwanted.
Let me type down this little note for you :
Dear pretty person, you are not bad, you never were. It’s the situation who has chosen you to be lucky enough to fight against it. You find yourself dispersing? What is wrong with that, hm? Let your little wounded pieces go, fly, disperse in air and land on varied marvels offered by mother earth, then you will wake up one day and no tears will march down your cheeks.
Accept your flawed self, appreciate the little things about you, from your beautiful chubby body, to your double chin, to your failed attempts at work, to your wrong decisions - Love yourself.
Will come a day when you won’t feel the need to hide in your own shadow, you will come into light. To conquer your fears and to fight.
I know it’s getting suffocating, I know you have considered giving up. But look at you so bold and lovely even when you are in jade. That takes courage, and you are courageous - You are unique, you just fail to see that, I bet you will soon though.
I have faith in you, pretty person. You may be down the line of jade - but trust me you are not alone. All of us are there. Struggling, Fighting. But not giving up.
Hang in there with strangers.
So, Now that we have openly acknowledged the wounds, let’s nurse you! Let’s talk about the ways to cure you. In order to stand against the feeling of Jade you need something more important than the feeling of Jade.
You see our mind loves it when we are down, it plays all the rude snobby things that have once put you at loss, and hence you find yourself growing in the darkness and forgetting the light.
Let’s shush the mind for a while and let our heart do the job. Things you can do to help yourself (because guess what stranger? Nobody else will do it for you! Reward your lovely self with Love !)
Find any freelancing Gig
Anything which can get you out of the phase you're shackled in will do the trick. There are a plethora of sites - Linkedin, Paid writing platform, Fiverr , Freelancers etc. There are so many places out there that you can just get started with, the good part being you don't need any investment or degree - Skills speak for you there !
Write down how is your head feeling
Writing has gotten me out of my depression, and its no joke that writing something down is the hardest thing especially if you are hurt or just empty deep inside. No matter, just pour what is going inside that top story of yours. Grab a pen, a paper and just scribble if you feel frustrated. It saves you from having to recite your misery before someone who doesn't even give a shit deep down.
Succumb yourself to the Nature
I can bet on this, nothing is more pure, more vibrant, more elite than Nature. The lovely symphony that it braids in your fuzzy mind is just what you might need at the moment! All you need is a 6AM walk on those fragile leaves wearing moisture droplets on them, a sun to bless you, a bower to accept your reeking heart. Nothing can love you unconditionally than Nature. It serves wonders. Don’t believe it? What about trying? Prove me wrong, I challenge you !
Dance with the fairy lights
I bet you’ve got so many cool songs in that playlist of your’s. Well, then what's holding you back? Play it, dance like a drunk bastard, but sway that body, lemme see those moves ! Wrap your room with fairy lights, they glow. Just like you. Dance, till your feet hurt, let your emotions guide your movements, let your heavy heart drive your performance. Ohh… So you can’t dance… Well I dance like a chicken, I bet you’re better than me, and if you're not… I have finally got a friend! Welcome to the gang buddy ! Let’s dance together like no one exists !
Allow yourself to hit the bottom
You might not have heard people say this, But I say it - Cry like it was the hardest fuck of your life ! Let it all go, drain down your cheeks, let those buried, suppressed emotions flow, cry you little wounded heart, cry. And when you’ll be done crying - Pour a glass of water and sleep. Waking up after that break down will feel light and less fuzzy.
Don’t do that stupid act
Where I am very well sympathetic about you feeling at the bottom, I still boldly condemn and castigate you for going to drugs, cigarettes or alcohol. There is no need to be a couch potato either! I get the misery but these acts will turn into habit and they will take over your sanity in the worst way possible. We need to be healthy and strong to defeat this sad vibe, don’t we? And this is just not the way we do it, you get that?
Feel Sexy
It is very important to adore, love, and pamper yourself. Not only by doing solo plays, you doofus! I meant by styling, posing. Wake up from that lazy bed of yours - take a shower, come out and dress. Not to impress but to feel something - anything, excitement, thrill, bliss, anything ! The goal is to feel something! Wear something hot, let that body raise the temperature - pose, do a photoshoot of yours in different positions and gestures. I am not talking about filling the internet with nudity, just keep them to yourself. No posting. You wanna post something? Post your heart , how you’ve been, how you feel - I really don’t wanna see those cringy asses lying around the Instagram accounts, and yes there is no need for you to flash those abs. You see the point is not about flexing, its about feeling, enjoying yourself. Do it !
Read pretty person, Read
You are living in the world of tragedy, so why not pick something to flavour your monochromatic vibe? And yes you can dismiss the self help books. Go with a theme, read any book, a random pick and complete it. You will feel accomplished. You will feel good about you being good.
Allow yourself to rest, to heal, to break again, to build the stronger version of you.
When I admit you are the only person who's got your back, I don't joke. You indeed are. Save your own butt. Now’s the time, pretty stranger. All of those motherfuckers will love your fall, raise, raise slowly. Not to end them, but to end the chapter. Start new.. Start with me, you’re not alone !
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